How To Meet People When You're Travelling Alone

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So you've decided to go on a solo trip - congrats! You've just made the best decision of your life. You've probably thought about your itinerary, what countries you're going to visit, what to pack, travel insurance, etc. but one thing you might not have thought about yet is, 'How do I meet people while travelling solo?'

Hands down you're going to have the best experiences imaginable and meet lifelong friends, but there may be times on your solo travels where you feel a bit lonely and think, 'hmm, how I put myself out there and make connections with people while I'm travelling alone?'

Fear not, this is something many travellers experience and whether you're currently on a solo trip or about to leave on one, it's normal to experience a little loneliness from time to time, even if you're a seasoned solo traveller. Here are the 7 best ways to meet people when you're travelling solo.


1. Do hostel tours and activities

Without a doubt, the best way I've found to meet people while travelling alone is to do every activity possible that my accommodation offers. This way you'll meet people who are staying in your hostel and you can make plans with them to do something in the evening after your activity that day. Most hostels offer daily activities and tours and you can sign up to join them the day before.

Sign up for everything, even if you're tired and exhausted from travelling, you don't want to miss out on the chance to meet great people and have amazing experiences, so say yes to everything, get involved and then follow up with people you've chatted to, and make more plans. Most people are in the same boat as you, so reach out to others and they'll appreciate it.

2. Strike up a conversation with literally anyone

Ask people where they're from, how long they're travelling, where they've been etc. and before you know it you've made a new pal! The best places to talk to people I find are at breakfast in hostels, and that way you can find out people's plans for the day and if it's something you're interested in, ask if you can join!

More than likely other travellers will be happy to have another person tag along in their group and activities are more fun with other people. You'll get great tips from other people on where to travel next or fun things you might have missed from talking to them about their travels. I found out about some amazing tours and recommendations from random conversations with people in hostels.

3. Stay in shared accommodation

It goes without saying, if you want to meet people, you need to be around people, so I highly recommend staying in hostels while you're travelling solo. Staying in shared dorms is great for meeting people and the whole hostel lifestyle is much more social than staying in hotels. You can still meet people by doing day trips while staying in hotels and private accommodation, but I've met some of the best people from staying in hostels and sharing our experiences together. I book all my hostels through Hostelworld so I know they're trusted places and I can check the reviews to see which hostel has the best activities for solo travellers.

4. Join travel Facebook groups

I've gotten some of the best travel tips from the Girls Love Travel Facebook group. It's a group for female solo travellers (sorry boys) from all over the world and there are X members so chances are there will be another solo traveller in your current location if you want to meet up with them. You can use the search function to look up whatever county or area you're in and tonnes of recommendations and questions from other travellers will pop up. You can even put a post up asking if there are any girls in your area that are travelling and want to meet up, just put yourself out there!

5. Do Airbnb 'Experiences'

If you've opted to stay in a hotel while travelling solo, then this is a great way to meet people while travelling. Airbnb offer 'Experiences' which include anything from guided walking tours, food, and beer tours, pub crawls, health and fitness activities like yoga and meditation and sports activities like stand up paddle boarding, boat trips, and everything else in between. If you want to get around whatever city you're in but want the help of a local tour guide and the company of other travellers, then Airbnb experiences are the way to go.


6. Book a group tour

You might want to consider booking a group travel tour like Contiki which is catered towards 18-30 year old travellers which are a guaranteed way to meet people similar to you. Even if you've been travelling solo for a while, it might be a good idea to book a group tour for a week or two, to make connections with people. Tours will usually have everything planned out with an itinerary and travel included, so you can leave the hassle of organising everything yourself behind for a while. Some of the best tour companies are Contiki, Intrepid Travel, G Adventures, and Topdeck.

7. Hang out in hostel bars

It can be scary putting yourself out there for the first time but soon you'll realise that hostel bars are the place to meet people when travelling solo. Sit at the bar, start up a conversation with the person next to you, chat to the bartender, just sit down at a table with a group of people and ask to join! Even better if there are people playing cards, just ask what the game is, get the drinks flowing and you'll be having fun in no time. You can even show up to hostel bars even if you're not staying in a hostel, so don't worry if you're staying in a hotel. There are plenty of hostels to choose from all around the world on Hostelworld.


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9 Reasons Why You Should Try Meditation

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When you hear the word ‘meditation’ what do you think of? 

Do you picture a tranquil forest with exotic birds chirping? Do you think of the pitter-patter of rain? Or do you imagine Tibetan Monks in a deep trance floating in the air? These are all images I think of when this practice comes to mind. I was a bit skeptical before starting my meditation journey. I thought it was another way to waste my time. You see, I’ve always thought of it as an odd trend that everyone wanted to try because it looked cool in Kung Fu movies. As the curious person I am, I did my research about it.

According to Psychology Today, meditation is, “the practice of turning one's attention to a single point of reference. It can involve focusing on the breath, on bodily sensations, or on a word or phrase, known as a mantra. In other words, meditation means pivoting away from distracting thoughts and focusing on the present moment.” After understanding the practice and trying it a few times, I realized that it has helped me in some major aspects of my life. So here are 9 reasons why I meditate and why you should try it too.


1. Meditation reduces the stress of the day

Whether young or old, everyone goes through stress. Unfortunately, meditation can’t get rid of the things that you’re going through. Rather, its purpose is to allow you to manage stress better. I usually meditate as I wake up in the morning and before I go to bed at night for at least 10 minutes. Sometimes just simply reflecting on what happened during the day helps too.

2. Meditation helps me to sleep better

Sometimes I try to force myself to sleep when in actuality, it makes the situation even worse. Sleeplessness can be linked to the level of stress your body is going through. Some studies show that meditation tackles stress hormones and decreases them the more you meditate. Before going to bed you can meditate to settle your thoughts. I usually lie down in a comfortable position and try to focus on my breathing. It’s not as simple as it sounds but don’t beat yourself up when you drift in thought for the first few tries. 

3. Meditation helps me to remember dreams

I am notoriously known for rarely remembering dreams. It was pretty frustrating when I woke up almost every morning knowing that I had a good dream but I forgot it. Not only has meditation helped me to recall my dreams but it caused them to feel more vivid as well. You won’t experience that the first time meditating but with continuous practice, you can reach that level.

4. Meditation makes me feel calm and relaxed

Imagine yourself frustrated trying to study for an important exam.  You feel jittery because you feel as if you’re not remembering all that you’ve studied from before. Your body can go through so much when you’re feeling anxious. Simply pausing your study time to sit down and meditate helps to calm your nerves. Afterwards, you’ll feel refreshed. Meditation can help you to think clearly in order to tackle daily tasks.

5. Meditation improves my focus

We live in a very busy world. If you were to sit at a bus stop, you’d hear the horns of vehicles honking or maybe you’d see children playing on the sidewalk across the street. You might be even listening to your favorite music on your phone. If you’re not careful, listening to all of this noise can cause you to become distracted. You might even miss your bus! When you’ve mastered the basic skills of meditation (e.g. breathing exercises), it will be easier for you to concentrate on areas of importance in your daily life. It would be harder for you to be distracted by the noise around you. Meditation aids to pinpoint your main priorities for family life, work, school, and any other important aspect you want to focus on.


6. Meditation is a good hobby

The word ‘hobby’ sometimes has a negative connotation in the sense that some view it as an idle thing you do to pass the time. However, for me, meditation is a past time that I’ve slowly started to enjoy and I’m trying to be consistent with it. I see meditation as a form of art that should be appreciated, even though it’s misunderstood by many.

7. Meditation gets rid of my mental clutter

I’m an over-thinker and sometimes it becomes mentally overwhelming. Some people experience anxiety attacks, headaches, or emotional instability. With meditation, it allows you to take out the mental clutter and replace it with something more useful and positive. You can read a chapter from a positive book such as self-help or religious books – anything that makes you feel good and allows you to contemplate about life. Pick a phrase or word that connects with you and use it as a mantra when you do your next meditation session. 

8. Meditation helps me to appreciate the little things

There is a type of meditation called Gratitude Meditation. As the name suggests it is the practice of reflecting about all the persons and things you are thankful for. Every day I think about all the things that stood out to me during the day that I appreciated such as having clothes on my back or having supportive loved ones. Meditating aided me to make me less cranky and more in tune with what really matters in life.

9. Meditation helps me to respond rather than react

The words ‘response’ and ‘reaction’ have two different meanings. A response deals with thinking before saying or doing something. A reaction is when you instantly act or say something, without thinking at all. Sometimes we react impulsively and regret what we say or do afterward. Sadly, I am a victim of that at times. As stated before, meditation helps me to focus and have a calm demeanor throughout the day. Therefore, this aids me to think and respond more instead of reacting to the outside world. It makes me aware of myself and the people around me.

If you are a skeptic like I was, I hope that you at least try it. There are several types of meditation and there’s one out there just for you! I suggest watching YouTube videos on how to effectively meditate. You can listen to soft acoustic instrumentals or hour-long audio of rain. Also, you can try any meditation app. Personally, I use Headspace. Now get out there and be your best self for the rest of 2019!

Written by Melissa Kerr


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How To Raise Low Self Esteem And Boost Confidence

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There is nothing that a woman wears better than her confidence, pride, and self-esteem. How we view ourselves is one of the most important aspects of who we are. It can shape our lives and help determine our successes. It can make us stand out in a crowd or blend into the walls. The more well built your self-esteem and self-worth are, the more likely you are to achieve your goals and find happiness.

See also: 7 ways I improved my anxiety issues

1. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

From appearances to achievements, it can be easy to compare ourselves to those who surround us. Majority of the time when we make these comparisons, we will not match up. That’s because we are focusing on what we are lacking, everything seems worse when you make it a competition. We are all individuals, the person you are so harshly comparing yourself to may be comparing themselves to you. Avoid stepping into this pit of despair and feeling inferior to your peers. Turn all your focus on being a better you.


2. Start the Day with Positivity

Using a dry erase marker and write positive words to yourself on your bathroom mirror. These can be inspirational quotes or just a simple, “Hey girl. Seize the day.”. You’ll start the day off the right way by seeing positivity and uplifting your spirit before you ever leave the house. Make this a daily routine.

3. Find a New Hobby

There is a sense of thrill and accomplishment when one takes on a new hobby. Learning and gaining experience in an activity or project grows your knowledge. It adds more to the person that you are. You’re developing a new skill and broadening your mind and capabilities. We take pride in what we know and what we can do. A new hobby not only adds to your self-worth but is also entertaining and good for the soul.

4. Fix Another Queen’s Crown

We must boost each other up. Every one of us has experienced a bad day so be the light to someone’s bleakness. A mere compliment can go a long way. Let’s lift each other up because we’ve all needed it before. We are valuable, we are important, and we need to make sure that every one of us knows it. Be each other’s hype squad.
5. Get Healthy

Eat right and get yourself a little workout routine, even if it's walking just a mile three times a week. You can always add to a work-out routine later if you want to. For some people, this might not sound like a good idea but when your body begins to feel better and your overall health has improved, you feel better about yourself. When your body is healthy, your mind and heart are more content.

6. Develop an Inner Dialogue

Engage in a dialogue with yourself, because who knows you better than you! No, it’s not crazy to talk to yourself, sometimes we need to explore what is bringing us down and what we can do to build ourselves up. It’s also good to verbally remind yourself of your strong points and values. Provide a little of your own therapy.

7. Pamper Yourself

Sometimes we just need to hit the reset button on ourselves. Take a trip to a spa or purchase a massage deal. Groupon is perfect for finding an affordable way to pamper yourself. Even if you’re shy on the money, you can pick up face and foot masks from your local store. Pop in a bath bomb, light a scented candle and cucumber your eyes. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health, refresh yourself.

See also: The 10 best things I did to improve my self esteem

8. Establish Relationship Lines

Some of us have a harder time with this than others but establishing how you want to be treated and the standard for how people should communicate and interact with you is important to your self-worth. People will either respect you or they won’t, it is up to you to develop the threshold of what behaviors and treatments are acceptable to you. We’ve all had a bossy friend or over-opinionated family member and they can weigh heavily on your emotions when you’re around them. You might love them but let them know where your lines are drawn. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are, be disrespectful or push their will onto you.

9. Remove Social Negativity

The existence of social media has brought the drama right to your couch where you’re sitting in pajamas, maybe drinking a glass of wine. Remove the negative. Be it a nosey cousin, dramatic best friend constantly over-sharing, or just some far off person from the past it's okay to silence them; better yet, delete them. Studies in Pakistan have concluded that social media tends to have a negative impact on your self-esteem by making it easier to compare yourself to others and to allow the sadness and grief of posts to affect your life.

10. Accept Who You Are

Each individual person is unique, from our personality traits to our skills and interests. Define who you are. Accept who you are. You must be in love with yourself. Look at your strong points and what makes you special, what you're capable of offering to yourself, others and the world. Accept those good qualities that you have. 


Some people just exude self-esteem and radiate their self-worth. Some of us struggle to achieve the level of self-confidence that we are aiming for but regardless we can always improve on our growth and constantly become a better person with a better outlook on ourselves. Give these tips and tricks a try and see if any of them are beneficial to you.


Written by Brianne Pickering

When You Feel Like Giving Up

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Life can seem perfect and fine one minute, and the next, your whole world has been shaken up and you feel like you've lost everything. Sometimes we invest ourselves in people and situations that end up being the completely wrong things for us and before you know it, you've become attached to someone or something that has no plans for you in their future.

You've built a life around loving someone, you've found happiness in a place or situation, to only discover this person thinks nothing of you. I feel like giving up, on everything. I won't though because there is so much more out there that I'm worthy of, even if I can't see it right now.

See also: 10 ways to love yourself despite depression

1. Be thankful for what is not in your life anymore

Thank God for the things that have left your life. You may feel sorrow, emptiness, and loneliness but if a situation is bringing you unhappiness, it shouldn't be in your life. This heartbreak was going to come sooner or later and be thankful that you didn't waste more years of your life with someone who was always going to leave you. Be thankful that you are free to find happiness and free from the misery and despair that you were stuck in. Things are being removed from your life because they are not meant to be there. Do not force them back into your life and do not let them back in.

2. Be thankful for what is in your life

This is easier said than done. We take our parents for granted, we take our homes for granted, we take our talents for granted, we take everything we have for granted because we're missing that one thing that we no longer have. Don't focus on what you've lost, for you haven't lost anything. You've gained the ability to see what you have in your life, see what's been there for you through thick and thin and what will always be there for you.

3. Life isn't happening to you

I've gone through the past year of my life feeling out of control of my decisions. I let someone else decide when to invite me to things, when to be included and when to be happy. I placed my happiness in someone else's hands and I lost it all when they decided they didn't need me anymore. I didn't make any of own decisions to be happy, but instead, I made decisions that would enable me to be with someone I loved. I felt like life was happening to me. I was going through the motions and I realized I need to make changes and start living my own god damn life.

4. Live your own life, not someone else's

If you don't make your own decisions and have your own life plan, you'll end up being a small part of someone else's, and guess what they have planned for you in their future, not much. When you find someone who's life is much more exciting and adventurous than yours, it's easy to become a part of their life rather than equal parts of each others. You can enjoy someone else's company so much that give up your own and stop doing the things that make you unique and special. Don't be a small pawn in someone else's life, be at the center of your own.

See also: 7 things I did that really improved my mental health

5. Don't place your happiness in someone else's hands

You can become so happy with someone that you don't realize you've become dependent on them for happiness. That feeling of love is different from anything else you have in your life, and when you feel connected to someone, they give you so much happiness.

However, if you don't have a strong support network in your own life and you entered a relationship feeling vulnerable or broken from a previous, you're not coming from a place of happiness and you're putting yourself in a dangerous situation because when that person decides they've had enough of you and used you for what you're worth, you're left with nothing and no one. Instead of looking for happiness in someone else again, try and find it in yourself.

6. The actions of other's are not a reflection on you

If you've been excluded from things and kept on the outside by a partner, it can feel so hurtful because you don't feel good enough, you think about what you've done wrong and what you could've done better. Could I have been more fun to be around? Prettier? Skinnier? More interesting? More confident? What could I have done to make him want me in his life, and not shut me out like this? The problem doesn't lie with you.

Certain people have different personality traits and may not be as caring and compassionate as you. Especially in the case of being with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, the problem most definitely does not lie with you, but with the narcissist. You are not a burden, you are not to blame, you're just with the completely wrong person.

7. Do. Not. Give. Up.

Do not give up your own life for someone who has had a bad impact on it. Don't lose your light for someone who has mistreated you. No matter how terrible you're feeling, know that you are strong and you will come through this and find the light that they took away from you. You are free now. You are free to discover your true self and find your place in the world.

Don't wish that you'd walked away sooner. Don't wish that you'd been stronger to leave them. Don't wish that they'll come back. Don't give up on your life. Be strong, take each day at a time, and be the most powerful person you can. Use your talents and abilities to all your strengths and remove the past negative thoughts from your mind. Focus on you.

When you feel like giving up after a breakup, it's only because you're focusing on the negative things that have just happened. Instead, remove any thought of the person from your mind, accept that they've done you wrong and be blessed that they're out of your life.

See also: 10 reasons going to counselling is the best decision you'll ever make

11 Questions To Ask Your Partner Before You Get Married

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My husband and I were in a long-distance relationship for almost a full year before we got married. Skype was both a blessing and a curse, offering the illusion of the one you love sitting across from you. You can see, you can hear, but you’re still too far away for a hug. It was tough, I won’t lie. There were many days when I just wanted to hold his hand or sit next to him and do nothing else at all.

What It's Like To Be A Gay Woman In A Conservative Asian Country

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Being gay isn’t easy. It becomes even more difficult when you live in a conservative country. I was born and raised in Manila but studied high school and some college in the United States. Since moving back to my homeland, I had to get used to being a social anomaly in a traditional South East Asian society.

10 Things I Did To Improve My Self Esteem

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As soon as 2019 came around, I vowed to make it my year and I know, everyone says “new year new me” but I didn’t want a “new” me. I wanted a better and improved version of myself. I was determined to stop feeling sorry for myself and complaining about everything, so these are some of the things I decided to improve.

12 Tinder Do's And Don'ts Before Your Next Date

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Tinder. The name of the online dating platform elicits an array of opinions. If you’re like me, you used the app as a form of window shopping – checking out your local prospects in a seemingly virtual safety net. But whether you’re using it to do some shopping, looking for a hookup, or searching for “the one,” there are some solid dos and don’ts to keep in mind before you get your swipe on.

How I Learned To Love Myself Despite My Depression


I watched as tears poured down my boyfriend’s face. During an argument, I had told him for the first time in our relationship, the awful words “I hate you.” As I absorbed the pain my words caused, I realized my own self-hatred buried deep inside. I could have kept hurting myself, but I couldn’t bear to see someone I love hurting. After some soul searching and apologies, I went to therapy for the first time in my life and was diagnosed with depression. This is my story of learning to love myself despite debilitating depression- the kind where you lay in bed all day long. Remember, everyone’s depression is unique, and these are in no ways alternatives to seeking treatment with a therapist or doctor, but these 10 tips helped me through depression.

7 Helpful Tips For Getting Over A Divorce


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Unfortunately, many of us will experience divorce at some point in our lives. Perhaps it will happen only a few years after your marriage. Perhaps it will happen after a decade or more. But there are steps you can take to help get through the pain and come out a stronger person.