When You Feel Like Giving Up

I feel like giving up on life after a breakup

Life can seem perfect and fine one minute, and the next, your whole world has been shaken up and you feel like you've lost everything. Sometimes we invest ourselves in people and situations that end up being the completely wrong things for us and before you know it, you've become attached to someone or something that has no plans for you in their future.

You've built a life around loving someone, you've found happiness in a place or situation, to only discover this person thinks nothing of you. I feel like giving up, on everything. I won't though because there is so much more out there that I'm worthy of, even if I can't see it right now.

1. Be thankful for what is not in your life anymore

Thank God for the things that have left your life. You may feel sorrow, emptiness, and loneliness but if a situation is bringing you unhappiness, it shouldn't be in your life. This heartbreak was going to come sooner or later and be thankful that you didn't waste more years of your life with someone who was always going to leave you. Be thankful that you are free to find happiness and free from the misery and despair that you were stuck in. Things are being removed from your life because they are not meant to be there. Do not force them back into your life and do not let them back in.

2. Be thankful for what is in your life

This is easier said than done. We take our parents for granted, we take our homes for granted, we take our talents for granted, we take everything we have for granted because we're missing that one thing that we no longer have. Don't focus on what you've lost, for you haven't lost anything. You've gained the ability to see what you have in your life, see what's been there for you through thick and thin and what will always be there for you.

3. Life isn't happening to you

I've gone through the past year of my life feeling out of control of my decisions. I let someone else decide when to invite me to things, when to be included and when to be happy. I placed my happiness in someone else's hands and I lost it all when they decided they didn't need me anymore. I didn't make any of own decisions to be happy, but instead, I made decisions that would enable me to be with someone I loved. I felt like life was happening to me. I was going through the motions and I realized I need to make changes and start living my own god damn life.

4. Live your own life, not someone else's

If you don't make your own decisions and have your own life plan, you'll end up being a small part of someone else's, and guess what they have planned for you in their future, not much. When you find someone who's life is much more exciting and adventurous than yours, it's easy to become a part of their life rather than equal parts of each others. You can enjoy someone else's company so much that give up your own and stop doing the things that make you unique and special. Don't be a small pawn in someone else's life, be at the center of your own.

5. Don't place your happiness in someone else's hands

You can become so happy with someone that you don't realize you've become dependent on them for happiness. That feeling of love is different from anything else you have in your life, and when you feel connected to someone, they give you so much happiness.

However, if you don't have a strong support network in your own life and you entered a relationship feeling vulnerable or broken from a previous, you're not coming from a place of happiness and you're putting yourself in a dangerous situation because when that person decides they've had enough of you and used you for what you're worth, you're left with nothing and no one. Instead of looking for happiness in someone else again, try and find it in yourself.

6. The actions of other's are not a reflection on you

If you've been excluded from things and kept on the outside by a partner, it can feel so hurtful because you don't feel good enough, you think about what you've done wrong and what you could've done better. Could I have been more fun to be around? Prettier? Skinnier? More interesting? More confident? What could I have done to make him want me in his life, and not shut me out like this? The problem doesn't lie with you.

Certain people have different personality traits and may not be as caring and compassionate as you. Especially in the case of being with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, the problem most definitely does not lie with you, but with the narcissist. You are not a burden, you are not to blame, you're just with the completely wrong person.

7. Do. Not. Give. Up.

Do not give up your own life for someone who has had a bad impact on it. Don't lose your light for someone who has mistreated you. No matter how terrible you're feeling, know that you are strong and you will come through this and find the light that they took away from you. You are free now. You are free to discover your true self and find your place in the world.

Don't wish that you'd walked away sooner. Don't wish that you'd been stronger to leave them. Don't wish that they'll come back. Don't give up on your life. Be strong, take each day at a time, and be the most powerful person you can. Use your talents and abilities to all your strengths and remove the past negative thoughts from your mind. Focus on you.

When you feel like giving up after a breakup, it's only because you're focusing on the negative things that have just happened. Instead, remove any thought of the person from your mind, accept that they've done you wrong and be blessed that they're out of your life.

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